Updated: Jan 24
After all the careful planning and preparations, downsizing a wedding at the last minute is a pain. It is more than that. It is `heart-breaking.
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It was uncommon but unfortunately, with COIVD, it is a possibility that many couples are facing this.
You can either choose to postpone the wedding until next year, go ahead with it this year or a combination of both (having a small ceremony this year and a party next year).
There is no right or wrong answer; it is up to how you feel.
In this blog, I am going to be looking at some tips for last-minute wedding downsizing. Not all the content may apply to your specific case. Skip ahead to the sections that do.
Let’s get started
1.Check the regulations
Unfortunately, the uncertainty of COVID means that government-imposed regulations are constantly fluctuating. So, make sure you are aware of the updates on the guidelines to weddings, your venue will be able to let you know of these guidelines as they will be always making sure they are up to date with the guidelines.
Do you need a new venue?
There are different reasons you may need to look for a different venue:
A. It might be closed. It is a pain, but it is the most straight forward scenario. You have no choice but to look for a smaller venue.
B. You might not be able to travel to it. If your venue was supposed to be abroad it might be tricky to get there. The venue does not need to be far to be inaccessible. With the changes of the travel restriction out of the UK and with the changing of countries with the traffic light changing between green, amber, and red, traveling is not ideal.
C. It might be the wrong size for your guests. Until now, opting for a slightly smaller room proportional to your guest size was the way to go. No one likes the feeling of a huge empty room. However, this was completely flipped on its head with COVID. Big rooms can now only accommodate a few people.
D. The venue might be too expensive for a smaller guest group.
Looking for a new venue
When looking for a new venue, check their capacity and their COVID capacity at different levels. For example, it might be a 30-person room which can only host 25 people during COVID.
Look for venues that are easy to get to. Do not go too far; it should be easy to travel too. Ideally in the same county.
Check for availability. They might be available on the same day, or you might need to choose another date. Do not discount weekdays. They might be your best bet!
When downsizing a wedding, you, unfortunately, will not get the luxury of choice. You might have to pick what you can find. If that is too restrictive, consider postponing the wedding instead.
Reducing the number of guests is exceedingly difficult. Well… unless you select guests based on alphabetical order. Then it is easy and unquestionably fair!
Joking aside, downsizing a guest list is exceedingly difficult; It is easier to think of it as making a new one.
Making a new guestlist
The total number of your guests will be dictated by the restriction level but also by the COVID capacity of the venue.
A few things to consider (in order):
A. Establish who cannot not be there. This applies from both an emotional and a legal point of view. If your must-have guestlist is already too large (or if they will not be able to make it), you will need to postpone the wedding.
B. Prioritise people you are close to and talk to regularly. You do not have to invite plus ones and long-lost relatives. Just the people you are close to.
C. Choose guests based on location. Consider who is nearby and can make it on the day regardless of lockdowns. Unfortunately, the COVID reality is that guests who live abroad probably will not be able to make it.
D. Lastly, choose guests by ‘groups. For example, university friend’s vs distant relatives. Breaking up groups is always tricky; it can be simpler to just invite certain groups and not others.
Vulnerable and elderly guests
Choosing whether to invite vulnerable and elderly guests is exceedingly difficult. Especially, if you are close to these people. Unfortunately, the reality is that even with the right precautions there is a risk.
A few things to consider:
A. How many households will be present? How likely are they to mix?
B. Is it possible/acceptable for them to attend just the ceremony and not the reception?
C. If they live nearby, can the soon-to-be-married couple visit them on the morning of the wedding day?
You are going to need to let your guests know that they will not be able to attend in person. A sticky conversation if ever there was one.
The easiest solution, especially if you were planning on having a large wedding, is to tell everyone that the original wedding is cancelled and then re-invite just the key guests to the smaller ceremony. If your downsized wedding is on a different day in a different venue this is the way to go.
Alternatively, if you are only de-inviting a few guests, you can reach out to them individually and explain. The reality is that people will understand.
Depending on your timeline, your guests need to be informed quickly about your changes.
For that reason, we suggest omitting printed invitations and sticking to digital ones; they can still be made personal and fun.
You can check out Canva for some template ideas. Instead, you can send out printed thank you cards after the event. At that point, time is not a problem.
4.Re-plan the ceremony
The ceremony you originally planned might no longer be possible. Some of the things you were hoping for might need to change.
Here are a few of the classic ones:
A. Check who needs to wear a mask. Depending on the restriction levels, your guests are probably going to be masked for the ceremony. The bride, groom and registrar are usually exempt. Again, this depends on the restriction levels, so check and plan accordingly.
B. Check the seating arrangements. As per the guidelines, people need to be grouped by households, with up to 6 people per group. Check with the venue to make sure this is feasible!
C. Check which traditions are possible. For example, your parents might not be able to walk you down the aisle, especially if you are from different households. Again, this depends on the lockdown levels, but you might need to make alternative plans. It is just as sweet to have the soon to be married partners walk each other down the aisle.
Note: All these recommendations will change depending on the level of restrictions. I recommend planning for strict measures and hoping they get loosened before the big day.
You can of course invite all (or some of) your guests to attend digitally.
Setting up a camera for zoom in the room for the ceremony is quite easy to do. It is not the same as being there in person, but it is still something.
If you expect the ceremony to last more than 40 minutes, consider getting a paid Zoom subscription or using Google Meets (free for up to 1 hour) or YouTube Live with an unlisted URL (if it is your first Live, you will need to set it up 24 hours in advance).
Modern phones have excellent cameras so there is no need for anything more elaborate. Instead, I recommend getting a tripod for the phone and, if you want to go the extra mile, a phone-mic.
If you do not have a mic, set the phone not too far away (3 or 4 meters) from the registrar and the couple. Otherwise, the audio will get distorted.
The reality is that when it comes to streaming, the quality of the audio is just as important (if not more important) than the quality of the video.
Pro-tip: If you want a more elaborate Live stream (i.e., anything more than just a static camera), we recommend hiring a videographer. It will save you a lot of stress.
6.Finding new suppliers
The wedding suppliers you originally booked might no longer be an option (or even available if you changed the date). The good news is that smaller weddings require less prep work. You can also do without some of the suppliers if needed.
The key supplier is catering. Unless you have specific food needs, with such a short time limit, the easiest is to stick with the venue catering.
Once the catering is sorted, get in contact with your other suppliers (flowers, make-up, photographers…) and see whether or not they can make it. If they cannot, ask for a recommendation. They might know someone free.
The wedding entertainment you originally planned might also no longer be feasible.
The upside is that, with a smaller group, entertainment opportunities change. You get the chance to do more personal activities and it is easier to help everyone join in the fun.
If you are looking for some wedding entertainment ideas, you can check out my separate article on the topic. A lot of these ideas are or can be made, Corona friendly.
If you need some help booking entertainers, contact myself www.emmalouiseweddingplanner.com/contact I am proud to partner with the best wedding entertainers in the business.
If you have any questions, please feel free to reach out.
That is a wrap
We hope you enjoy your wedding and have the best time ever.
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